Women

Friday, 20^th June 20, 2014

 

The real journey becomes when a girl turns into a woman and that is where she has a life ending at everything she does. When I was a little girl I was always asked to pursue higher dreams and to make them come true but the other day when I turned 18, suddenly I was asked to hold back every dream and for the sake of other’s happiness. Today a girl is born on a barrier that come a day she will become the reason of dependency for everyone, her kids her family her husband’s family, to the society and even more so to the strangers. Every foot that she picks up calls for decency, however inappropriate the road might get she is supposed to remain dumb silence. While a tear drops from the corner of her eyes when she is screaming in the last hour of her pregnancy, the question set running in her mind thereon is “my mother in law wants a boy”. A woman never defends her reasons or her cause, the strength she has got is the greatest of all and yet all that strength is abide by her responsibilities towards the several lot and thereafter even though this is the peak of generation where all is sarcastic and bold, yet women however are still the same kind of scared because when we are born we are told that we got to maintain our image, think before we speak, talk less and work more. This fragment of mind that runs around with all set of men educated or not, they do not respect women at the end of the day they are talking the crap they do. 

What the hell is ever so wrong with a female having a lot of male friends or a wish to be free or even wearing the set of clothes she is comfortable in, why is she judged on the basis of her body parts rather than the kind of woman she is, why is she getting a job because she is good in bed or most importantly why the hell is she being tortured because she has dreams to pursue? Why is she a drama queen if she tells you all she feels? Yes a girl cries a lot and seeks a shoulder every now and then, which is obviously because she mentally and physically suffers more. Agreed men run the home after wedding but only financially the rest is done by women and how do you least agree about that? All the lame jokes out there everywhere of how a married man is trapped with his wife, let’s look cautiously who is trapped more? Your mother sets all the targets for her like her boss at her workplace and both ways she works like a mad cow and even if she doesn’t raising a kid is no joke, low that you don’t get it. Obviously lame of you that you cant love your wife because she is fat and she complains about things but how could you not love her for what she has done to your house your kids or even your family. For 25years she maintains herself for the sake of her womanhood and she gives away all that she has learnt to make the home that you need and then you go to work and joke about that one person who has left aside her whole life to make up with you, so what if she takes hours to look beautiful in front of mirror how do you overlook the fact that the same face and hands get dried and dead to wash your clothes and clean your kitchen. If women joked about men, there will actually be a joke at how incomplete men are without women. Could you laugh at that? Hell no! You can’t, takes a lot to do that. You must have done something good to deserve the woman who forgives you and loves you in spite of whatever you do. If you cannot pay her the attention then she is better than best yet without yourself.  Be careful even the worst kind of women has the best in her, she can always turn a bad man into good, she is a mother she can turn around the world but in return all she seeks is respect and a little love. To all you women, do you know? Some clever man once said “the stupidity is you seek to walk shoulder with men when the fact is you are above them”, you realize it today, the sooner the better. A girl child is a hope, a hope that life is still with us and those who kill it are better off without any child at all. Daily there is a crime against women, and the understatement of the year that women are weak they should worry about their safety and not walk down the road in the dark or wear the inappropriate clothes or make male friends or dance in public places or even laugh or talk a lot, but have you noticed? The girls who have been raped, killed or burnt down with acid were actually the decent ones who maintained all the criteria set for a girl and their only plea for survival was “don’t hurt me”. That is not being weak that is actually being strong, for it takes some real guts to want to live after whatever injustice has been done against you. The stupid men came blabbering about how a woman cannot reproduce without men, dear men how the hell will you be ever there without women? Most men who love and respect their women have the best with them, the rest are just cracking lame jokes and laughing about it. PITY. Know your women, mother daughter sister wife, know her needs and her dreams and you will know she is all about you and your happiness, this deserves to be one happy world let’s try and make it one.

Speak little girl don’t hold your heart for the sake that you are told so.

Antara Biswas